Bend and SNAP

timelady-of-221b:

joeeatspeople:

yesidolikecoatsbigtime:

Types of people who romanticize small town life:

  1. People who didn’t grow up in small towns

#THE LOCALS AREN’T QUIRKY#THEY’RE RACIST

#THERE’S NOTHING TO DO
#EVERYONE’S ON DRUGS

fullyactivated:

sherlacking:

Feminism is knowing that you don’t have to wear things to impress a man

Feminism is also knowing that it’s okay to wear things to impress a man if you want to

Society forgets the first part, tumblr forgets the second part

ermathursty:

saw this tip jar at my Dairy Queen today and lost it at tipiosa

ermathursty:

saw this tip jar at my Dairy Queen today and lost it at tipiosa

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

(via lil-ith)

eraserheadsbaby:

skeptikhaleesi:

brownglucose:

nextyearsgirl:

The absence of women in history is man made.

How petty

just look at babe ruth’s face tho
so confused
so lost
i love it

Your daily dosage of “men are actually giant babies who will do anything to protect their position of power over women”

eraserheadsbaby:

skeptikhaleesi:

brownglucose:

nextyearsgirl:

The absence of women in history is man made.

How petty

just look at babe ruth’s face tho

so confused

so lost

i love it

Your daily dosage of “men are actually giant babies who will do anything to protect their position of power over women”

chasertiff:

When I say “boys are dumb” what I really mean is “boys have been raised in a patriarchal society that forces them into an incorrect and problematic view of masculinity that not only forces them to strip away valuable virtues from themselves, like patience and gentleness, but also forces them them to view and treat women in unhealthy ways that devalues women as people and makes them into objects purely for a man’s benefit”

but it’s a lot faster to say “boys are dumb”

coelasquid:

hokuto-ju-no-ken:

daenerys-stormboobs:

seraphknights:

cultureshift:

This is the Memorial to the Missing and contains over 50,000,000 pennies to represent the lives of each American child abandoned to abortion by a society and a culture that has embraced their destruction. We must prevent the need to add to this memorial. Take a stand. Get involved.
 ”How we treat the least of us defines us.”

"should I use this $500k to help struggling parents and pregnant people or should I put it in a glass box"

Did any one even bother to look it up
They donated it all to and I quote “Across our state there are Christian Crisis Pregnancy Centers and special needs related to women struggling with an unwanted pregnancy. The dollars produced from the endowment will all go to help with these needs.”
so yes they still help struggling pregnant people and parents. 

Well then

Aren’t Christian Crisis Pregnancy Centres the ones that try to shame and manipulate women out of abortions, and provide no actual useful assistance for women struggling with financial and social problems that could be driving them to seek an abortion? And in some cases actually put up the false front of aiding women seeking abortions only to stall them until it’s too late? x x x x

coelasquid:

hokuto-ju-no-ken:

daenerys-stormboobs:

seraphknights:

cultureshift:

This is the Memorial to the Missing and contains over 50,000,000 pennies to represent the lives of each American child abandoned to abortion by a society and a culture that has embraced their destruction. We must prevent the need to add to this memorial. Take a stand. Get involved.

 ”How we treat the least of us defines us.”

"should I use this $500k to help struggling parents and pregnant people or should I put it in a glass box"

Did any one even bother to look it up

They donated it all to and I quote “Across our state there are Christian Crisis Pregnancy Centers and special needs related to women struggling with an unwanted pregnancy. The dollars produced from the endowment will all go to help with these needs.

so yes they still help struggling pregnant people and parents. 

Well then

Aren’t Christian Crisis Pregnancy Centres the ones that try to shame and manipulate women out of abortions, and provide no actual useful assistance for women struggling with financial and social problems that could be driving them to seek an abortion? And in some cases actually put up the false front of aiding women seeking abortions only to stall them until it’s too late? x x x x

gigi2690:

halftheskymovement:

Libya has issued a decree that will recognize women who were raped during the 2011 uprising as war victims entitling them to compensation equal to that of wounded soldiers. Pro-Gaddafi forces are alleged to have used rape as a weapon during the revolution. Financial assistance, physical and psychological health care services will be provided to the women.
Read more via BBC News.

Libyan Justice Minister Salah al-Marghani told the BBC that the decree offers 12 measures, including financial assistance and physical and psychological health care.
Money would also be available for things “like sending the parents of victims to Hajj - this is to elevate the status of victims, so they are not looked at as a burden”, he said.

gigi2690:

halftheskymovement:

Libya has issued a decree that will recognize women who were raped during the 2011 uprising as war victims entitling them to compensation equal to that of wounded soldiers. Pro-Gaddafi forces are alleged to have used rape as a weapon during the revolution. Financial assistance, physical and psychological health care services will be provided to the women.

Read more via BBC News.

Libyan Justice Minister Salah al-Marghani told the BBC that the decree offers 12 measures, including financial assistance and physical and psychological health care.

Money would also be available for things “like sending the parents of victims to Hajj - this is to elevate the status of victims, so they are not looked at as a burden”, he said.

tahthetrickster:

bespectacledbisexual:

i like that we say “oh, man” to express disappointment

because men are disappointing

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